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Why is Sally SAD?

The Standard American Diet (SAD) needs an overhaul. We’re all eating what they told us in the ’70s is a healthy diet (no fats, “healthy” grains, no sugar), yet the majority of Americans are considered obese. This is Sally’s story.

The alarm shocked Sally awake at 6:30, as it does every day. She’d just, finally, fallen back to sleep after waking up at 2 am and surfing on the Internet until around 5. She rolled over onto her side, then slowly swung her legs over the side of the bed, placing her feet onto the floor, as the back doctor told her to do. She can’t just leap out of bed any more like she used to. “Boy, I really am feeling my age these days.” Each of her stiff, crackly joints reminds her to take it slowly. “Patience, Spot!” she tells her dog, who is whining to go outside to potty. “You wouldn’t have to hold it if you’d just use the darn dog door I put in for you!” Sally shuffles to the kitchen, puts her coffee cup under the Keurig, puts in a coffee pod, and pushes the brew button. While the coffee is “brewing,” she opens the back door to the let the dog out. An hour of Internet surfing and 2 cups of coffee later, Sally is still not quite awake, but she needs to get ready for work. “No time to cook breakfast. I’ll just have some Honey Nut Cheerios and skim milk. Maybe some toast with margarine, too.” Sally pours herself about 2 cups of cereal and a cup of skim milk, makes a couple pieces of toast, and eats it so fast, she’s burping and hiccupping her way to the shower.

After showering and dressing for work, Sally heads out the door. On the way to work, she stops at the Starbucks drive-through window to get a Skinny Iced Caramel Macchiato and a coffee cake. “Ah, that should start waking me up!” Sally finishes off the coffee cake on the way to work, arrives at work just barely on time, grabs a Diet Coke, pulls up a chair, and starts to work.

Sally doesn’t move from her chair until 10, her usual break time. She’s happy to work at a place that provides free drinks and snacks for employees. Today is Donut Day, so she grabs a lemon-filled Krispy Kreme and a Diet Coke. After a quick “pee” stop, she heads back to her desk and puts her feet on a box. They tend to swell up at the ankles lately.

Finally, it’s lunch time and Sally is starving! She grabs her purse and heads for the McDonald’s drive through. She picks up a Big Mac, super-sized large fries, a super-sized Diet Coke, and an apple pie. Sally takes her lunch back to her desk, where she can read the news of the day while she eats her lunch.

At 3 pm, Sally’s been staring at numbers all day and needs a break. She nibbles on her apple pie and checks email. The apple pie made her thirsty, so she walks to the break room to get another Diet Coke. She makes a quick stop in the bathroom to pee and wonders when was the last time that she had a bowel movement. “Must be at least 3 days.” She wonders if she might need to take something for that.

Back at her desk, she finishes off the apple pie and the Diet Coke, and before she realizes it, it’s time to go home. She stops at Kentucky Fried Chicken on the way home to pick up dinner: 20-pieces of chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy, corn on the cob, and biscuits. Her family of three easily finishes off all 20 pieces of legs and thighs and all of the sides.

After dinner, it’s “family time.” Sally, her husband, and their son sit down to watch a movie and have a bowl of “ice cream” and Diet Coke, and then they all go to bed. As she lies down in the bed, she fights gas and heart burn, and she just can’t seem to relax, as always. She thinks she might need to see the doctor about that. “I know there is a prescription pill to fix that. I should talk to him about my weight, too. I just can’t seem to lose weight anymore.”

Does this story sound all too familiar? Sally is eating the Standard American Diet (SAD) full of simple carbs and processed foods, and rarely gets any exercise. She thinks she’s doing herself favors by drinking Diet Coke and “Skinny” lattes. She sits at a desk all day long, then sits in front of the TV or computer at home until she can no longer keep her eyes open–yet she has trouble falling asleep. (Could it be all of that Diet Coke?) She has stiff, aching joints, she’s chronically constipated (alternating with diarrhea), suffers from insomnia, excessive flatulence, and heartburn, and gaining more and more weight every day. First, let’s examine Sally’s diet:

Food Calories Carbs, g. Sugar, g.
Cheerios, 2 cups




Milk, skim, 1 cup




Toast, 2 pieces, whole wheat




I can’t believe it’s not butter, 2 Tbsp




Starbucks Crumb cake




Starbucks Skinny Iced Caramel Macchiato




Krispy Kreme glazed lemon-filled




Big Mac




Super large fries




Apple pie




4 pieces of chicken




2 servings of mashed potatoes and gravy




2 servings of corn with margarine




2 biscuits




5 Diet Cokes




2 Keurig flavored coffees




Breyers vanilla ice cream, 2 servings








You don’t need a degree in nutrition to see how wrong Sally’s diet is. But here are a few numbers to demonstrate:

  • One teaspoon of granulated sugar equals 4 grams of sugar. Even though she was drinking Diet Coke all day, Sally still ate 172 grams of sugar—that’s more than 43 teaspoons of sugar! The American Health Association recommends women get less than 30 grams of sugar per day. Sally had almost 2.5 times the recommended maximum!
  • A 30-year-old, sedentary, not overweight woman should eat around 2,000 calories per day. (Older women and obese women need fewer calories; active women need slightly more.) Sally ate 5,241 calories!
  • In a 2,000-calorie diet, you should eat about 250 grams of carbohydrates (per dietaryguidelines.gov.) Primal/Paleo dieters believe that’s still too many, especially if you want to lose weight, but Sally ate 602 grams of processed carbs! She had more carbs before lunch than she should eat all day.
  • Did you see any fresh fruits or vegetables in her diet? Nope. True, she had mashed potatoes and corn, but corn is actually a grain. A big salad of greens and fresh veggies would have given her diet a needed nutritional boost and she wouldn’t have eaten so much of the other stuff.

What is most shocking is how few nutrients and how many toxins Sally is consuming each day. Even though Diet Coke has very few calories, carbs, or sugar, it also has no nutritional value. What it does have is caramel color, aspartame, acesulfame-K, phosphoric acid, citric acid, and caffeine. Aspartame and acesulfame-K are artificial sweeteners. They trick your body into thinking you’re getting something sweet. When you consume Acesulfame-K, it stimulates the pancreas to secrete insulin that you don’t need. (Too much insulin leads to “insulin resistance” which can cause a whole laundry list of problems.) Aspartame contains phenylalanine, aspartic acid, and methanol. (Certain groups of people should avoid phenylalanine.) Plenty of websites discuss the pros and cons of artificial sweeteners. In Sally’s case, she may as well drink regular Coke instead of the Diet Coke, but that would increase her already high sugar consumption. She would certainly be better off drinking plain water, mineral water, water with lemon, or herbal tea. (I would suggest black coffee or tea without sweetener, but I can’t do that, either. Blech.) You can buy powdered glucose online or at a health food store. Glucose is a sweetener that your body actually knows what to do with. Stevia is a sweetener made from a leaf that, so far, seems to be a healthy alternative.

Each time Sally has an ache or pain, she immediately heads to the medicine chest or the doctor. Many of Sally’s health complaints would lessen or go away entirely if she fixed her diet. And a little exercise wouldn’t hurt, either.

  • Her joints probably ache not only because of the excess weight she’s putting on them, but the lack of nutrients that she’s feeding them, and the lack of exercise she gives them. The most popular reason for not exercising: “I don’t have time.” Sally stays up late watching TV and stays in bed until the last possible moment, and feels tired from the moment she eases her body off the bed. She sits at a desk all day, and she serves herself and her family processed foods from a drive-through window. Why does she not have time to exercise? She doesn’t make the time. She could take the dog for a walk after dinner, instead of watching TV and eating ice cream. She could try asking for or making a standing desk at work so that she could stand for at least part of the day. At the very least, she should get up from her chair every hour and walk around the office for 5 minutes.
  • The heartburn and constipation tell me that she may not be digesting her food properly. That can be for a variety of reasons. For one, digestion begins in the mouth. Enzymes in saliva and the process of chewing start the breakdown of the food. If Sally is gulping down her food and not taking time to chew it, she’s missing out on part of the digestion process. Also, as we get older, we lose some of our digestive enzymes and she may need to take some in pill form and/or eat fermented foods like sauerkraut to help her get back on track. (Taking antacids will only make the problem worse. We need acid to digest our food.)
  • Her gut bacteria are likely overloaded with all of that sugar and processed carbs. I’d be surprised if she doesn’t have a major Candida infestation. Yogurt with live cultures and probably added probiotics in pill form would help her refresh the good gut bacteria, kill off the bad bacteria (Candida), and maybe even stop her sweet tooth.

The best thing Sally can do if she wants to feel better is fix her diet. I would suggest she have a consultation with a dietician/nutritionist who can provide her with a proper diet, not just for her, but for her husband and son, too. Once she’s in a routine of shopping for, preparing, serving, and eating healthy foods (and getting her husband and son to help with that), then she could look into adding more activity for herself and the family. (Starting both at once might be too overwhelming.) After a month, she’d probably lose at least 10 pounds, if not more. (Removing all of those processed foods would cause her to retain less water.) Her family could dust off their old bicycles in the garage and go for rides on the weekends. Maybe she and her son could do pushups and pullups together in the morning before school. No doubt her dog would also get healthier and lose weight, too. Maybe her son, like many, has been diagnosed with ADHD? That can be improved by eating fewer carbs and other dietary changes. In fact, some (children AND adults) get so much improvement by eliminating carbs and processed foods that they no longer need to be medicated.

Most of all, Sally should put some of her surfing time to good use and do some research into what she’s been eating and what she ought to be eating. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables, grass-feed beef, free-range chickens and eggs, cutting out all grains (not just processed grains) and processed foods, and taking the time to move frequently throughout her day would have her feeling like a new person in just a few months.

(In the interest of full disclosure, fixing my diet and exercising more is an issue I struggle with myself. It’s not easy!)

With a “Cute” name, can you take it seriously?

CuteFTP file transfer software by Globalscape has been in the market since 1996. The “Cute” name reflects its beginnings as a consumer product. With the release of the “Pro” version in 2001, enterprises began to rely on CuteFTP for their secure file transfers within the company and with external partners. You might have expected a name change to reflect their “big boy” upgrades, but Globalscape stuck with the Cute name because it was well-known and respected as “the” file transfer product that got the job done.

CuteFTP Lite, intended for home users, hit the market in 2008, but was not as widely adopted as the Home and Pro versions. CuteFTP Lite had all of the power of CuteFTP Pro, but without the complexity and advanced security features. Rather than finding new adopters, sales of Lite took away from sales of Home. For years, sales of the Home version had been taking away from sales of the Pro version, too.

So, for 2012, Globalscape did away with the Lite, Home, and Pro designations and merged them all into one CuteFTP product, version 9. It has all the bells and whistles of the Pro version, but with hundreds of bug fixes, an updated look and feel, localization and Unicode support, and many more enhancements to remind the world that CuteFTP is still going strong.

I’ve been using CuteFTP since 2007 to transfer files to my remote servers. All I need to do is connect to my server, select all of  my files in Windows Explorer, then “drag and drop” them over to my remote server. I can even schedule transfers to occur automatically. Ever upload all of your content and then notice a typo? Instead of re-uploading the whole file, I can edit it right on the remote server. (Then, of course, edit the one on my local hard drive, too.)

CuteFTP is easy to set up and easy to use, whether you’re a grandma with lots of grandbaby pics to upload to your website or a professional technical writer uploading help content. It’s still “Cute,” it’s still home-user friendly, and still has the power and security to attract the big boys.

Is It Useful to Tell a Child He Has a High IQ?

I have a higher-than-normal (self-tested) IQ, but I accept that there are many things that I am just not good at. Many people I know cannot accept that there are some things that they are just not good at. Or are they telling themselves the lie, thinking it will make them better at these things? Is it a confidence booster? Does believing it make it so? Positive thinking can only go so far. Even if I were to delude myself into believing that I am 6′ tall, I am still only 5’4″. If we’re referring to mental skills that we’re not good at (instead of physical characteristics that we can’t change, such as being taller), even then there is a limit to what someone is able to learn (possibly related to IQ). Unless you have physical problems with your brain/nerve structure, you have the ability to learn almost anything, limited only by the time you might need to learn it. You might just learn in a different way than the person sitting next to you in class.

For example, when I was in high school, girls were not expected to be “good at” math. Not that we shouldn’t care about math, but that we couldn’t be good at it! We were supposed to be better at Language Arts than the boys. All but one of the math teachers in my high school were men. I think if I had more support and more of a “belief” that I was capable of doing advanced math in high school, I probably would have tried harder. But why bother when everyone tells you it can’t be done? I might as well have tried to be taller.

When I went back to college in my 30s, I started all over again with math: Fundamentals of Algebra, College Algebra, Precalculus (trigonometry), and then Calculus. I was careful to choose female instructors for the algebra classes, because I think it’s true that women and men learn differently, and because a female math professor isn’t going to think (consciously or unconsciously) that I can’t do it simply because I’m female. I got As in Algebra. Precalculus was a summer class and only had a male instructor available. I got a B, but only because he allowed us to write formulas on a 5″x7″ index card and use it on the exams–otherwise, it would have been worse. In Calculus, I asked if we could use the index card, but no, we were to memorize the formulas. I got a C. Barely. The next semester, in Calculus II, I realized I was in way over my head and dropped the class, changed majors so that I didn’t need any more math, and graduated with a BA in Communication instead of a BS in Engineering, proving the stereotype true, once again.

I could go back to school and start over again with precalculus, but I really have no incentive to do so. Instead I’ve convinced myself that “I’m just not good at trigonometry.” And if I ever need one of those formulas, I have books and Google to help me out. I knew how to use the formulas, I just couldn’t remember them. (Yet I rememberl the formula for how to find the reactive capacitance of a parallel circuit, which I learned in 1978: XL = 2πfL.) The brain is such an odd, complex thing. So my point is that with time and practice, I did get better at math–just not as good as I needed to be to do advanced calculus in my head, and I wasn’t willing to keep trying until I got it right.

The average IQ is 100. That’s just the number that was chosen when they came up with the theory of IQ. People of less-than-average intelligence have an IQ lower than 100; people with a higher-than-average intelligence have an IQ higher than 100, the classic bell curve. 95% of the population scores between 70 and 130. 98% are below 131. MDs and PhDs tend to test around 125; college (Bachelor/Master level) graduates, around 112-115; factory workers, truck drivers, high school graduates, around 90-95. (Which tells me that education has a bit to do with how well you score on an IQ test.) Mensa requires a supervised test score at the 98th percentile–1 person out of 50. The 98th-percentile score under these conditions is 131.

This blog http://onemansblog.com/2007/11/08/the-massive-list-of-genius-people-with-the-highest-iq/ provides a list of people with the highest IQ (and a good, layman’s description of what IQ is). When you see how many people he lists, you might start to think that having an above-genius-level IQ is common. It’s not. Note the ones that he says have a “verified” high IQ versus an “alleged” high IQ, such as “Author Marilyn Vos Savant has a verified IQ of 186” and “Actress Sharon Stone is alleged to have an IQ of 154.”

In contrast to the blog article, according to the references below, “The highest reported standard score for most IQ tests is IQ 160, approximately the 99.997th percentile. IQ scores above this level are dubious as there are insufficient normative cases upon which to base a statistically justified rank-ordering.”

  • Hunt, Earl (2011). Human Intelligence. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press. p. 8. ISBN 978-0-521-70781-7. Lay summary (28 April 2013).
  • Perleth, Christoph; Schatz, Tanja; Mönks, Franz J. (2000). “Early Identification of High Ability”. In Heller, Kurt A.; Mönks, Franz J.; Sternberg, Robert J.; Subotnik, Rena F. International Handbook of Giftedness and Talent (2nd ed.). Amsterdam: Pergamon. p. 301. ISBN 978-0-08-043796-5. Lay summary (6 October 2013). “norm tables that provide you with such extreme values are constructed on the basis of random extrapolation and smoothing but not on the basis of empirical data of representative samples.”
  • Urbina, Susana (2011). “Chapter 2: Tests of Intelligence”. In Sternberg, Robert J.; Kaufman, Scott Barry. The Cambridge Handbook of Intelligence. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press. pp. 20–38. ISBN 9780521739115. Lay summary (9 February 2012). “[Curve-fitting] is just one of the reasons to be suspicious of reported IQ scores much higher than 160.

Seems as though the only valid IQ test would be around 6 years of age, after the brain has developed and before a lot of education. Or maybe at high school graduation. But then they say that the risk center of a man’s brain is not fully developed until after age 25, so maybe after college would be a better time to test men. Unless you didn’t go to college. Or high school. I suspect IQ scores have some education bias.

Is it useful to tell a child that he has a high IQ? Even if he doesn’t? If you frequently tell your child how smart, how handsome, how important he is, when he goes out into the world, he may be very, very confused and disappointed when the rest of the world doesn’t share your opinions.

Formal writing vs. informal writing

I get paid to write technical documentation, not dime novels, not romance novels, not teen books. In technical writing, you have to be clear and concise, use words that your audience will understand, use active voice, write in the second person (do this; now do that), and use proper grammar and syntax. When writing novels, you get to make the rules—it’s your novel! If you want to break the rules, break the rules! The only rules are the rules that you make. You can call that your “style” if you want. But you still have to be consistent, and still have to consider your audience. You don’t write in French if your audience speaks only English.

  • Writing technical documentation and business documentation is considered formal writing.
  • Writing a novel, this blog, emails to friends, Facebook posts, tweets, and so on is informal writing.

“Well duh,” you’re saying. “Like I didn’t know that already.” Well, no, it doesn’t seem so, because I’m frequently called out for not following the rules of formal writing when I write informally. If you’re writing a Facebook post using “gangsta slang,” I don’t feel the need to correct you. 1) it’s not my job and 2) it’s your style. The same goes for my writing on social networks–I’m writing for me, not for my employer.

Like most people, I write the way I speak, unless I’m writing for someone else. When I’m writing for the company that I work for, it’s important that it be written correctly for the audience, which in my case is the computer/IT crowd. That’s not to say that a non-computer/IT audience wouldn’t understand the writing. It’s also important, as I said earlier, to be clear and concise.

The “average” American adult reads at the 7th or 8th-grade level. That’s pretty sad, but remember that it is an average. Some people don’t read as well, and others read at a higher level. If you’re writing for your English Literature professor, obviously you’re going to use less common/more pompous language than the average American uses/sees every day (e.g., “lacrymose” instead of “weepy’). So writing at the 8th-grade level should be OK for most of your audience. Also keep in mind that, even though I’m writing toward a computer-literate audience, the particular technology that I’m writing about might be new to some of our customers, especially since computer technology changes quite frequently. It’s also quite possible that the IT person you have in mind for your user guide might not have graduated from high school (e.g., got a GED and then went to a technical school or had military training), or maybe English was not his first language. Some things get lost in translation. That’s also why it’s important to pay attention to grammar and sentence structure—easier to translate.

The Plain Language “movement” (for lack of a better word) has been going on since the 90s. I really don’t know why it hasn’t caught on. The idea is very much “techwriter 101″—use clear, plain language that anyone could understand or translate easily. (They do say, however, don’t write for an 8th grade audience if you’re sure your audience is made up of PhD candidates.) President Obama signed the Plain Writing Act of 2010 on October 13, 2010, but it’s bigger in the UK than in the US. Medical, legal, and other professionals are encouraged to write in plain language so that their constituents know what the heck it is they’re reading. What a concept! I guess we just feel more important when we use “big” words.

Whatever style you’re more comfortable writing in, write that way! And read what you like to read, not what someone else told you that you “should” read. If you want to write in a certain style, read more books in that style. That is, if you want to write user guides, read user guides, technical manuals, and so on. If you want to write like Dave Barry, read Dave Barry. If you want to write like Charlotte Brontë, read Jane Eyre. But don’t read Charlotte Brontë and then try to write user guides that way. You will definitely lose your audience. However, injecting a little Dave Barry into user guides might encourage more people to read them!

It Just Works

As a technical writer, I often say that no one notices when the documentation is good, but everyone notices when it’s bad. The same can be said of data security. As you chug on day after day, uploading files, downloading files, copying files … everything “just works.” You don’t think about all of the things going on behind the scenes: firewalls, virus scanning, virus blocking, alerts about suspect files and suspect connections, servers going down, maintenance updates, security patches, and so on. At least, you hope you don’t have to think about those things. You expect your IT team to be on top of that. Yep, no one notices when all of that “just works,” but when it stops “just working,” EVERYONE notices.

At home, you don’t have an IT team. You need to be smarter to protect your own security. Even if you don’t do banking on your computer and all you do is Facebook and email, you still have to think about security. Most commonly, you’re going to have “harmless” malware that tracks your browsing habits, what you type into forms, and so on for the purpose of marketing. Other bad guys can use this information for identity theft. The worst-case scenario of course is that a sneaky virus will be installed on your computer that turns it into a “brick” that requires your neighbors’ son who lives in their basement to fix it for you. These sorts of viruses probably benefit computer manufacturers the most, because many people will just shove the old, bad computer in a closet and use that as an excuse to buy a new one.

So what can you do? The most important thing you can do is to install the regular Microsoft and Adobe updates/patches, which are often released for the sole purpose of fixing a security problem. And pay attention to manufacturer’s “End of Life” policies, which means after a certain point, they are no longer upgrading or patching that software, making it more attractive to hackers. Install a brand-name antivirus app on your computer and keep it updated. Make all of these updates (Microsoft, antivirus, etc.) automatic and occur during times that you don’t expect to be using your computer, such as while you’re asleep or at work.

If you are really uninformed regarding regular computer maintenance, then there are two things you can do: pay the money to have someone regularly clean up your computer for you, or buy an Apple computer, which is made for people who don’t know and don’t want to know how to maintain a computer properly. Actually, there are even more options these days for those whose only use for the computer is Facebook, email, picture sharing: some tablets, mobile phones, Chromebook, and so on are “locked down” so they are updated automatically.

You’ll still need a mobile antimalware app, though (such as Lookout). And you still need to cleanup temp files. Your computer needs a part of memory (RAM) and maybe hard drive space just to display all the interfaces and to run services in the background. If the hard drive and RAM are clogged with remnants of files that aren’t being used, it’s harder for the computer to run active apps. You can clean it up yourself if you know what to delete (cookies, web history) and what not to (system files). An app the IT guy I know showed me is called CCleaner. They have a free and a paid version that you can use to clean up temp files, cookies, web history, and so on.

Maintaining your computer is like maintaining your house or car. You can keep your computer running well for a long, long time if you regularly clean up your computer, install updates, and install protective apps. If you ignore it until there is a problem, it can be much more expensive.

Word Tip: Inserted Picture in Word is Cut Off by Preceding and Following Paragraphs

A coworker asked for my help with this issue. He was working in a document that he had received from someone else. He placed the cursor in front of a paragraph, pressed ENTER, then inserted a picture. He could see the outline of the picture when the picture was selected, but only a small piece of the picture appeared in the line where he had placed it:


He checked the picture layout (i.e., Text Wrapping > Behind Text), and everything was fine. Then he asked for my help.

I selected the paragraph into which the picture was inserted. Then I opened the Paragraph dialog box to check the line spacing:


The Line spacing was set to “Exactly 12 pt” which means no matter what he did to the picture, it was only going to show exactly 12 points of it. Changing the Line Spacing to “Single” allowed the entire picture to appear:


Why did this even happen? For some reason, that document’s “Normal” style had line spacing set at exactly 12 points. There really is no reason for this in “regular” documentation. If you were doing something fancy with layout, you might want to adjust the line spacing. But plain old “single” spacing is usually fine for most documents, and that line spacing will adjust automatically depending on the font size. (The same reason that you do NOT have to double space after a period!)

Our Self-Absorbed Society

Just as a car was going by, I crossed the street and leaped onto the curb. Louie (a poodle) was startled by the car and jerked his chain (which was attached to my water belt) in the opposite direction from which I was headed. The slight pull from Louie while I was airborne was enough to make me stumble several feet and eventually fall, smashing my hand into the sidewalk, dislocating my pinky, and fracturing the bones in my right (dominant) hand. The passing car continued on without hesitation.

I don’t know whether he/she saw me fall. I sat up and felt my hand, winced in pain, and thought, “Crap, I think it’s broken. And that pinky does not look right at all.” I called my husband, who didn’t answer his phone. I called my son, who didn’t answer his phone. I tried each of them 3 more times as I started my slow, painful walk back home. Fortunately, my hand was the only major injury. I ended up with a bruised temple, shoulder, and forearm, but nothing broken there. (However, months later, the pain from soft-tissue damage in my neck and shoulders has started to emerge.) About a block from home, my husband called. “Want me to come get you?” Kinda late for that.

I’ve fallen like this before, but didn’t break anything. When I was in college, I was hurrying to class, running across a wooded area with tree roots sticking up. I tripped over a tree root and somersaulted onto my shoulders. Others on their way to class rushed on past, oblivious to my discomfort. (No one even held up numbers, as in a sporting event, to rate my somersault!) Embarrassed, but not injured, I brushed myself off and went on to class.

In January 2013, I ran in the half marathon at Walt Disney World. Running along a busy road with one lane blocked off for the runners, we were all running down a “cattle run” of sorts, barely enough room to run because of so many people. I kept to the right side of the “trail” so as not to impede the faster runners. A woman came up behind me, trying to pass those of us who are slower (and running on the right side, I repeat), and stepped on the heel of my shoe. Keep in mind, we’re all running about 6 miles per hour (some faster, some slower), so the shoe was launched off of my foot and flew off to the side, in the part of the road where the cars were.

As you might expect, the suddenness of it scared me, I yelped and stumbled, and my son caught me. He then stood next to me and held my arm while I put my shoe back on, and then we continued on our run. Meanwhile, the tall, Olive Oil-esque blond girl, with a  huge, bright smile, having the time of her life, continued on her merry way to the next set of Disney characters to get her picture taken, seemingly oblivious to my discomfort. It was bad enough that she stomped on the back of my shoe–she should have stayed to the left side with the faster runners and not followed so closely behind me. But she could have stopped, apologized, and offered to help me put my shoe back on. I doubt it even registered in her mind what she’d done. In fact, I may not have been her only victim that day! For all I know, for her it was part of the fun to stomp on the back of slow people’s heels for “extra points”!

Remember, this was a DISNEY run. It’s supposed to be fun. You’re not going to qualify for Boston on this run. She was hurrying because 1) she could and 2) she wanted to get in line to get her picture taken with the Disney characters along the route, but still wanted to finish with an unembarrassing (for her) time. The reason she had fallen back to where the slow pokes like me were is that she’d stopped at every other photo spot before this one. She should have known that her time was going to suck if she did that. But she’s (apparently) not the sort to care about other people, only herself. She was in a hurry and I was in her way.

Lately, I’ve been noticing many people are not the sort to care. Yeah, I know in times of major disasters like the Boston Marathon bombing, the fires in Colorado and California, the fertilizer plant explosion in West, Texas, and so on, people do “grow a conscience” and actually help each other. But in everyday life, it’s rare for someone to go out of their way to help their fellow humans. Many people will pick up a mangy, flea-bitten stray dog before they’ll help a stranger who falls on a sidewalk. I’m sure there are many reasons for this attitude (our litigious society, for one), but that doesn’t mean I have to like it.

Take a cue from my mistake: don’t hook your dog to your water belt! Even a 13-pound miniature poodle can knock you off balance when both of your feet are off the ground.